Cultivating A Little Brat

Looking at kids, I often feel complexed feelings. There are some sayings about children. “A child is a mirror of an adult”. “A child is shaped as what and how parents teach and educate”…and so on. One also said, “Do not expect children to be innocent and pure but look at them how much they act nasty and cruel like little brats. You would see all kinds of dirty and messy scenes from their playing like grown ups”. I often notice that honestly.

Once they are so cute and lovely but I also find out the real basic instincts from their acts as a human. Sometimes I am confused what is the difference between humans and animals whenever I see their uncultivated real faces. An adult is obviously a cultivated figure through lots of socializing and training for a long time. The difference is that adults know how to express their hidden desire wrapped with sophisticated manner and masks not to be blamed by others while children reveal it wide open without any shame, guilty feeling, or hesitation.

A child before cultivation does not know about right and wrong or good and bad. He or she totally follows their instincts and does whatever they want. Adults could call them rude and spoiled but they are just honest with their true feelings as they do not have any filters in their brain and followed actions by that. Actually cultivating a human is also mostly about inserting lots of customs and taboos that a society has built. Who could guarantee the society trains and educates children right as it is changed and all different by time and places in every country?

Children often ask me why they should not do certain acts or saying but mostly I also do not know the answer clearly but happen to force them to follow my order because it could be out of control in my guess. Losing control is the worst situation I could imagine around me.

Reminding my childhood, I just feel amazed how they could be so free and liberal to talk whatever they want as I could have just kept silence afraid of disciplines from teachers and parents. I think they know too much information from Youtube and internet these days.

Yet, kids could be very vulnerable to be exposed to violence and abusing as they are not fully capable to express their thoughts and recognize what is going on around them. Thus adults have obligations to protect them enough from harmful environments because certain incidents might affect on their whole life and mental health.

Though it is also true that lots of bullying or abusing things are conducted under the name of principles or disciplines as some news shows. I often hear that some parents teach their kids using sticks or physical punishment if it is needed. Also kids say some teachers often hit part of their body to train them and their parents are acceptable with that. This makes me very uncomfortable and assume that it would be far away for kids to have their proper rights as a kid in some countries.

Honestly, I also feel hard to control my emotion when a lousy kid acts rude and impulsive. It is always a huge challenge for me to talk to them without losing temper and patience in certain situations. Regardless, adults should be acknowledged with the limit of disciplines what to do or not to do. Otherwise, it only gives a bad influence on children and it can not be the ‘Education’ anymore.



Recently, I am very interested in minimalism. The thought came out when I looked into my closet which was full of clothes but I still could not have enough of it every in the morning although I bought it once in a while. You have it enough and buy it enough but you still don’t have it enough. I don’t know what this really means.

As I had clean the stuffs in my space, it seemed like the endless closure. I had sold, shared and thrown things away but another thing constantly came out again and again from somewhere. I could see my infinite desire and obsession clearly through those materials. The products I bought whenever I had felt emptiness and vagueness and tried to fulfill it with things but could not succeed after all.

This time, I have determined myself I would not make same mistakes and be very cautious to set up my space again. Then it is another joy and needs some creativity not to fill it with some clumsy garbages. First, I would empty my bedroom with nothing but only bed blankets. Next, I have no idea yet what to do with a living room area though because I also not get used to the too empty place. I feel nervous and strong gut to fill the area with things. I searched on some You tube channels about minimalism styled living rooms but it still seems with overly items. As I could move to another place, I do not want to struggle again with heavy moving stuffs. I would not possess a thing if it is a burden to remove.

Do I need to spread some rug sheets on the floor and leave it as it is as an exercising or meditation spot? Or do I need a comfortable desk and chairs for reading or dinner space at least? I may need that small luxury in that case. A comfortable couch is definitely tempting but I used to feel stress with the huge space consumption of it so must skip for that. I would definitely not buy a TV this time for sure. Or I may need the screen on the wall to watch You tube or internet vods. It could be wonderful if it is a bit big like a small home theater.

Buying an old camping car and fixing it is the best option but I don’t know how to drive and fix it so it would be better delay as the next project. Until then I may need a small truck to come and go. It is hard not to drive as I am almost a blind in direction. I mostly take a walk over an hour and turn around a whole town for five minutes destination.

For cooking stuffs, I only need a stainless pan and a small cattle. I would not buy tons of sources and plates as it always bugged my nerves whenever I had opened the shelves before. The kitchen was the last place I gave up to tidy up so another person did it instead of me when I moved in and out. It would not happen again this time. I would rather choose to eat out if I have to buy stuffs for cooking.

Nevertheless, I would may need a small electronic cooking pot which could make tons of dishes with a few buttons and it seems real practical. Other than that I would not buy anything really. My seven boxes have not arrived yet from the old place so I would consider to buy anything after that if I really need things.


4. 자긍심 Self-Esteem

You are all you’ve got…

책 ‘여성에 관한 명언집’ <러닝 출판사> 중에서

번역 <유앤아이 출판사>

From the book ‘The Quotable Woman‘ by RUNNING PRESS

Translated by UNI Publishing

먼저 자신을 사랑하면 다른 것은 순조로워진다. 이 세상에서 무엇을 하든 당신은 진정 스스로를 아껴야 한다.

루실 볼

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.



당신이 누구인지를 받아들이기 전까지는 스스로 지닌 것에 결코 만족할 수 없다.

도리스 모튼

Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.



한심한 것은 아직 미숙하면서 숙련된 척 하는 것이다. 사랑을 갈구하면서 필요없는 척 하거나, 훨씬 잘 할 수 있는 일인 걸 알면서 단순히 즐기듯 여유부리는 것 말이다.

도리스 레싱

What’s terrible is to pretend that the second-rate is first-rate. To pretend that you don’t need love when you do; or you like your work when you know quite well you’re capable of better.



실패를 심각하게 받아들이지 않는 것은 그것들을 더 이상 두려워하지 않는다는 의미이다. 스스로에 대해 웃어 넘기는 법을 아는 것은 상당히 중요하다.

케서린 맨스필드

When we begin to take our failures nonseriously, it means we are ceasing to be afraid of them. It is of immense importance to learn to laugh at ourselves.



나의 존재를 교정하려는 남자는 필요없다. 가능한 가장 깊은 관계는 우리 존재들을 잊는 것이다.

셜리 맥클레인

I don’t need a man to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we’ll ever have is the one without ourselves.



. . .너무 많은 이들이 무엇을 소유하고, 입고, 어떤 집에 사는 지, 그리고 어떤 종류의 차를 모는 지로 스스로를 정의한다 . . . .당신을 카르띠에 시계를 차고 헤르메스 스카프를 한 여인으로만 여긴다면, 집 안의 화재는 재산 뿐만 아니라 당신 자체를 무너뜨릴 것이다.

린다 헨리

. . .So many of us define ourselves by what we have, what we wear, what kind of house we live in and what kind of car we drive . . . .If you think of yourself as the woman in the Cartier watch and the Hermes scarf, a house fire will destroy not only your possessions but your self.



다른 사람들의 성격에서 보이는 뚜렷한 흠결과는 전혀 달리, 내 자신의 것에 대해 곰곰히 생각할 때면 결점들이 서서히 희미해지고, 시시하고, 오히려 별 것 아니게 된다.

마가렛 해슬리

Whenever I dwell for any length of time on my own shortcomings, they gradually begin to seem mild, harmless, rather engaging little things, not at all like the staring defects in other people’s characters.



자신에게 너무 몰두하면 과하게 차려입게 된다.

케이트 하버슨

If you are all wrapped up in yourself, you are overdressed.



자신에 관해 타협하지 마라. 당신이 갖고 있는 전 재산이다.

제니스 조플린

Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.



모두가 알아야 할 궁극적인 교훈은 타인 뿐 아니라 자신도 포함한 조건없는 사랑이다.

엘리자베스 커블로-로스

The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.



타인이 아닌 자신에게 귀 기울여라.

거트루드 스테인

Let me listen to me and not to them.



전문가는 당신에게 자신의 예상치를 말할 수 있다. 하지만 스승은 당신 본연의 기대치를 이끌어낸다.

페트리샤 닐

A master can tell you what he expects of you. A teacher, though, awakens your own expectations.



인격은 천천히 형성되지만 무너지는 것은 순식간이다.

페이스 볼드윈

Character builds slowly, but it can be torn down with incredible swiftness.



당신의 생각을 점령한 적과 싸우는 것은 쉽지 않다.

샐리 캠튼

It is hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head.



평등 중의 하나는 남성과 동등한 대접을 받는 것이 아니고 당신이 남자를 대하듯이 본인을 대우하는 것이다.

말로 토마스

One of the things about equality is not just that you be treated equally to a man, but that you treat yourself equality to the way you treat a man.



일할 때 나만의 목소리로 절로 내는 흥얼거림을 참을 도리가 없다.

뮤리엘 스파크

I see no reason to keep silent about my enjoyment of the sound of my own voice as I work.



당신의 동의없이 누구도 당신을 초라하게 만들 수 없다.

엘리노어 루즈벨트

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.



우리는 각자 이야기 속 영웅들이다.

메리 맥카시

We are the hero of our own story.



제 멋대로 생각하라. 하지만 항상 자신을 가장 염두에 둬라.

도리스 레싱

Think wrongly, if you please, but in all cases think for yourself.



당신이 진실을 마주하기 전까진 그저 혼란스럽다.

펄 베일리

You never find yourself until you face the truth.



성인은 오직 성인에게만 납득된다.

파멜라 핸스포드 존슨

Sainthood is acceptable only in saints.



인생은 워낙 견고해서 사건들이 그 예측을 하지도, 할 수도, 맞추지도 못 할 것이다.

샬롯 브론테

Life is so constructed, that the event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation.



나는 자주 겸양을 키울 틈이 있으면 한다 . . . 하지만 나에 대한 생각만으로도 너무 바쁘다.

에디스 시트웰

I have often wished I had time to cultivate modesty . . . But I am too busy thinking about myself.



분노는 당신의 눈을 정면으로 응시한다. 그녀는 권력 불나방들에 별 감흥이 없고 처치법을 안다. 그 용기는 비통을 두려워하지 않고, 그녀는 대상이 확실치 않을 때 조차 간구하기 마다하지 않는다. 그녀가 걸음을 뗄 때 외로움에서 고독으로 가는 길을 선택한 것은 분명하다. 사람들이 내게 그녀가 단호하다고 한 것은 거짓이 아니었다. 단지 그녀가 친절하다는 것을 빠뜨렸다.

J. 러스 젠들러

Outrage looks you straight in the eye. She is not impressed with power trippers, and she knows first aid. Courage is not afraid to weep, and she is not afraid to pray, even when she is not sure who she is praying to. When she walks it is clear she has made the journey from loneliness to solitude. The people who told me she was stern were not lying; they just forgot to mention she was kind.



나는 그 여행이 이제껏 경험한 여정 중 최고이길 바란다. 우리 자신으로의 탐험.

셜리 맥클래인

I hoped that the trip would be the best of all journeys: a journey into ourselves.



타인이 내가 어떤 사람이 되기 바라는지 알아차리도록, 그리고 그렇게 되기 위해 자라났다. 남의 시선으로 나를 평가하지 않도록 꽤 오랜 시일이 걸렸다.

샐리 필드

I was raised to sense what someone wanted me to be and be that kind of person. It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.



무언가가 아닌 누군가가 되기로 할 때 얼마나 많은 배려들을 잃는가.

코코 샤넬

How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something, but to be someone.



나는 애늙은이 것이 항상 신경쓰였다. 만일 나의 이런 차이점이 후일 자산이 될 수 있다는 걸 알았다면 어린 시절 고민이 훨씬 덜 했을 것이다.

배트 미들러

I didn’t belong as a kid, and that always bothered me. If only I’d known that one day my differentness would be an asset, then my early life would have been much easier.



당신은 한 때 거침없었다. 고분해지지 말라!

이사도라 던컨

You were once wild here. Don’t let them tame you!




3. 일과 성공 Career and Success

It can let the nice things come out…

책 ‘여성에 관한 명언집’ <러닝 출판사> 중에서

번역 <유앤아이 출판사>

From the book ‘The Quotable Woman‘ by RUNNING PRESS

Translated by UNI Publishing

성공은 당신을 둘 중 하나의 여정으로 이끌 수 있다. 당신을 프리마돈나로 만들거나, 혹은 험난한 것들을 순조롭게 하고, 위험한 것들을 제거하며, 좋은 일들이 생겨나게 한다.

바바라 월터스

Success can make you go one of two ways. It can make you a prima donna, or it can smooth the edges, take away the insecurities, let the nice things come out.



쥐 싸움에서의 문제는 당신이 설사 이겨도 여전히 쥐 밖에 안된다는 점이다.

릴리 톰린

The trouble with being in the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat.



일은 당신이 의지하고, 신뢰할 수 있는, 평생의 – 항상 당신 곁에 있을 – 친구이다.

마가렛 버크-화이트

Work is something you can count on, a trusted, lifelong friend who never deserts you.



나는 고된 일 없이 정상에 오른 사람을 알지 못 한다. 그것이 비결이다. 정상까지 항상은 아니어도 꽤 가까이는 이끌 것이다.

마가렛 대처

I do not know anyone who has got to the top without hard work. That is the recipe. It will not always get you to top, but should get you pretty near.



아무도 재능만 갖고 성공할 수 없다. 신은 재능과 일머리를 주었고, 일은 재능을 비범하게 만든다.

아나 파블로바

No one can arrive from being talented along. God gives talent, work talent, work transforms talent into genius.



당신이 스스로 얻은 명성은 당신에게 부여된 것과는 사뭇 느낌이 다르다.

글로리아 밴더빌트

The fame you earn has a different taste from the fame that is forced upon you.



성공하기 위해 해야 할 첫번 째는 당신의 일을 사랑하는 것이다.

마리 로레타 수녀

To be successful, the first thing to do is fall in love with your work.



내게 성공이란 열 개의 최상급 멜론들을 먹으면서 각각 위만 살짝 맛 보는 것이다.

바브라 스트라이샌드

Success for me is having ten honeydew melons and eating only the top half of each one.




2. 행동, 성취, 그리고 열망 Action, Achievement, And Ambition

They went out and happened to things

책 ‘여성에 관한 명언집’ <러닝 출판사> 중에서

번역 <유앤아이 출판사>

From the book ‘The Quotable Woman‘ by RUNNING PRESS

Translated by UNI Publishing

모든 심각한 도전은 내부로부터 시작된다.

유도라 웰티

All serious daring starts from within.



당신이 무언가를 해야 할 시점은 아무도 그것을 원치 않을 때, 저마다 불가능하다고 말할 때 이다.

마리 프란시스 베리

The time when you need to do something is when no one else is willing to do it, when people are saying it can’t be done.



행동은 좌절에 대한 해결책이다.

조안 배츠

Action is the antidote to despair.



각자 자신만의 안전지대가 있다—조깅하기, 그림 그리기, 수영, 낚시, 수 놓기, 정원가꾸기. 다만 활동 그 자체보다는 자신의 역량 강화에 집중하는 것이 더 중요하다.

Each person has his own safe place—running, painting, swimming, fishing, weaving, gardening. The activity itself is less important than the act of drawing on your resources.



당신이 할 수 있다면 할 수 있는 것이고 할 수 없다면 그 역시 옳다.

마리 케이 애쉬

If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.



어떤 이는 무엇을 해왔는지를 전혀 못 본다. 오직 무엇이 이루어져야 하는 지를 본다.

매리 커리

One never notices what has been done; one can only see what remains to be done.



비관론자는 항성들의 비밀을 발견하거나, 미지의 영역을 항해하거나, 혹은 인간 정신의 새로운 영역을 개척할 수 없다.

헬렌 켈러

No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new heaven to the human spirit.



미래를 볼 때 너무 눈이 부셔서 눈이 멀 지경이다.

오프라 윈프리

When I look into the future, it’s so bright it burns my eyes.



당신이 무언가 되는 일에 너무 늦은 때란 없다.

조지 엘리엇

It is never too late to be what you might have been.



당신이 그것을 할 수 있다면 왜 해야 하는가?

거트루드 스테인

If you can do it then why do it?



인생은 살아 가는 것이다. 당신 스스로를 위한다면 흥미로울 일을 찾아 나서는 것이 낫다. 단지 앉아서 자신에 대해 걱정하고 있을 것이 아니라.

케서린 헵번.

Life is to be lived. If you have to support yourself, you had bloody well better find some way that is going to be interesting. And you don’t do that by sitting around wondering about yourself.



삶에서 당신이 이루어낸 것들 보다 더 실질적인 것은 없다 . . .가차없이, 돌이킬 수 없게 끝낸 일들.

사라 티스데일

There’s nothing half so real in life as the things you’ve done . . .inexorably, unalterably done.



만약 해야할 일이라면 하라. 운명이나 나를 잘 모르는 누군가의 손에 맡기지 말라. 자신을 가장 잘 아는 이는 본인이다. 한 번 심호흡하고 전진하라.

애니타 베이커

I say if it’s going to be done, let’s do it. Let’s not put it in the hands of fate. Let’s not put it in the hands of someone who doesn’t know me. I know me best. Then take a breath and go ahead.



예전에는 모든 위험을 무릅쓰고 결과가 좋지 않음에도 결국 생존한, 그 어느 때보다 요즘 우리에게 필요한, 훨씬 대담한 여성들이 있었다.

게마인 그리어

There have been women in the past far more daring than we would need to be now, who ventured all and gained a little, but survived after all.



나의 어머니는 성취와 성공사이에 구분을 두었다. 그녀가 말하는 성취란 최선을 다해 열심히 공부하고 일하는 것이다. 성공이란 다른 사람들에게 칭찬을 받는 것인데 그것 역시 좋은 일이다. 하지만 성취보다는 덜 중요하고 만족스럽다. 항상 성공보다는 성취에 집중해야 한다.

헬렌 해이즈

My mother drew a distinction between achievement and success. She said that achievement is the knowledge that you have studied and worked hard and done the best that is in you. Success is being praised by others, and that’s nice, too, but not as important or satisfying. Always aim for achievement and forget about success.



내가 오랫동안 주목한 성취를 이룬 사람들은 거의 주저하는 일 없이 무슨 일이든 했다는 것이다. 그들은 뛰어들었고 일은 이루어졌다.

엘리노어 스미스

It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.



이상주의자들 . . .바람에 주의를 기울일 정도로 아둔해서. . .인류를 발전시키고 세상을 풍요롭게 해왔다.

엠마 골드먼

Idealists . . .foolish enough to throw caution to the winds. . .have advanced mankind and have enriched the world.



모든 이가 재능이 있다. 다만 그 재능을 쫓아 힘든 시기를 견디는 용기는 흔치 않다.

에리카 정

Everyone has talent. What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads.



당신은 언제, 어떻게 죽을 지 결정할 수 없다. 오로지 현재, 어떻게 살 지만 결정할 수 있다.

조안 베츠

You don’t get to choose how you’re going to die. Or when. You can only decide how you’re going to live. Now.



무릎을 끓고 사느니 선 채로 죽는 편이 낫다.

돌로레스 이바루리

It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.



실패한다면 실망할 일이지만 시도하지 않는다면 불행한 일이다.

비버리 실즈

You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try.



만약 당신이 과거에 무엇을 이루었는지에 머물러 있다면 그것은 더 이상 발전이 아니다. 나는 계속 전진한다.

레슬리 카론

I think it’s the end of progress if you stand still and think of what you’ve done in the past. I keep on.



나는 부자가 되기를 갈망하지만 부를 쌓기 위해 하는 짓은 전혀 하고 싶지 않다.

거트루드 스테인

I do want to get rich but I never want to do what there is to do to get rich.



어제는 도전하기 위해 애썼고 오늘은 승리하기 위해 도전한다.

베네디트 데블린

Yesterday I dared to struggle. Today I dare to win.



높이 날아 올라야 할 때 결코 바닥을 기고 있을 수는 없다.

헬렌 켈러

One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar.



우리는 보통 아버지 탓을 하고 형제, 자매들, 그리고 학교와 선생들을 탓해야 한다고 알고 있다. 누구를 비난하든 어느 경우에도 스스로를 원망해서는 안된다. 결코 당신의 잘못이 아니다. 하지만 또 역시 본인 때문일 수 있다. 실제 변화를 원한다면 당신이 그 변화시킬 당사자이기 때문이다. 아주 단순한 것 아닌가?

케서린 헵번

. . .We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers—you can blame anyone, but never blame your self. It’s never your fault. But it’s ALWAYS your fault, because if you wanted to change, you’re the one who has got to change. It’s as simple as that, isn’t it?




1. 여성으로 되는 것 BEING A WOMAN


There are tons of quotable books from famous people. Though it is quite rare to publish a book only for women’s quotation. That was the reason I bought this book because it gives me some space to think about my identity as a woman that I rarely think normally. I only regard myself as a human, not as a certain gender. Then there are some situations that constantly remind me I am a woman. It feels like I MUST be a woman to get along with a society well. The ‘woman’ is an abstract image the society wants from me for sure that I hardly could follow. This book explains those things well when, where, why, and how.

☕️ The Translator’s Comment

책 ‘여성에 관한 명언집’ <러닝 출판사> 중에서

번역 <유앤아이 출판사>

From the book ‘The Quotable Woman‘ by RUNNING PRESS

Translated by UNI Publishing

여성은 충분한 순환이다. 잠재력은 창조하고, 번성시키고, 변화시키는 것이다. 빛 없이는 아무것도 열매를 맺을 수 없다는 것을 그녀는 알고 있다. 이 방황하는 변화의 시기에 여성의 목소리를 듣고 그녀의 심장이 이끄는 대로 우리를 안내하도록 하라.

다이앤 메리차일드

A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture, and transform. A woman knows that nothing can come to fruition without light. Let us call upon woman’s voice and woman’s heart to guide us in this age of planetary transformation.



그녀는 밧줄에 매달려 있는 자신의 팔들을 흔들면 안 된다. 그녀는 이랬다 저랬다 제 멋대로 할 수도 없다. 그녀는 소리를 질러서도 안 된다. 물론 면사포를 쓴 채 담배 한 개피를 빼어 물 수도 없다.

에밀리 포스트

She must not swing her arms as though they were dangling ropes; she must not switch herself this way and that; she must not shout; and she must not, while wearing her bridal veil, smoke a cigaret.



온화하고, 인내하고, 재치있고, 겸손하고, 고결하고, 용기있기 위해서 남자답거나 여성스러워야하는 것은 아니다. 다만 사람다워야하는 것이다.

제인 해리슨

To be meek, patient, tactful, modest, honorable, brave, is not to be either manly or womanly; it is to be humane.



여성은 태어나는 것이 아니다. 여성으로 자라는 것이다.

시몬드 드 보봐르

One is not born a woman, one becomes one.



기존의 전통적인 여성상을 따르는 것을 멈출 때 마침내 진정한 여성성을 누리게 된다.

베티 프리덴

When she stopped conforming to the conventional picture of

femininity she finally began to enjoy being a woman.



내가 아는 비범한 여성이란 가치를 선도하고 효과적으로 창의적이며 대체로 영적이다.

마가렛 플러

The especial genius of woman I believe to be electrical in movement, intuitive in function, spiritual in tendency.



태어나서 18세 까지 소녀는 훌륭한 부모를 필요로 한다. 18세 부터 35세 까지는 외모가 아름다워야 한다. 이후 55세 까지는 친절한 성품이 필요하다. 55세 이후 부터는 막대한 재산이 요구된다.

소피 터커

From birth to age 18 a girl needs good parents. From 18 to 35 she needs good looks. From 35 to 55 she needs a good personality. From 55 on, she needs good cash.



그녀의 편지를 받아보기 전까지 그 여성을 안다고 할 수 없다.

아다 레버슨

You don’t know a woman until you have had a letter.



글을 쓴 당사자가 누구인지 파악하는 것은 흥미로울 수 있다. 아마도 본인의 복잡한 정체성의 표현일 것이다.

비트라이스 웹

It would be curious to discover who it is to whom one writes in a diary. Possibly to some mysterious personification of one’s own identity.



당신이 여성 관련 이슈와 그 상황을 한 동안 접하게 되면, 그것들이 평화, 숭고함, 공동체와 같은 개념과 밀접한 관련이 있다는 것을 알게 된다. 여성으로서 우리는 사회의 리더가 되는 법을 배워야 한다. 단지 우리 자신만의 안위가 아닌 모든 이들을 위해서. 우리의 다음 세대를 위해 주변환경에 있는 가족을 지지하고 보호해야 한다.

차이나 갤런드

Once you live with the issue of woman and the landscape for a while, you find that you cannot separate them from the notions of peace, spirituality, and community. As women we must learn to become leaders in society, not just for our own sake, but for the sake of all people. We must support and protect our kinship with the environment for the generations to come.



여성들은 인간관계에서의 오랜 훈련으로 인해 —그것을 여성적 직관이라 한다—어느 그룹에서든 특별한 기여를 한다.

마가렛 메드

Because of their agelong training in human relations— for that is what feminine intuition really is—-women have a special contribution to make to any group enterprise. . .



A woman must have money and a room of her own…

여성을 분노케 하는 것은 자신을 희생하는 것이 아니라 그것이 별 의미가 없을 때이다.

앤 모로우 린드버그

I believe that what woman resents is not so much giving herself in pieces as giving herself purposelessly.



무엇인가 여성만이 탐구할 수 있는 여성에 관한 미지의 영역이 있다는 것을 느낀다.

조지아 오키피

I feel there is something unexplored about woman that only a woman can explore…



여성의 삶은 각기 감정적으로 격정적인 상황이나 도전 위주로 돌아가고 몇몇 강렬한 경험들을 남김으로써 실제 인생들이 일련의 드라마가 될 수 있다.

왈리스 심슨, 윈저 공작부인

A woman’s life can really be a succession of lives, each revolving around some emotionally compelling situation or challenge, and each marked off by some intense experience.



여성: 그의 농에 재치있게 응대하는 구색, 훈계자, 궁시렁에 대한 냉소자, 그리고 그의 정당함을 위한 죄인.

헬렌 로우랜드

Woman: the peg on which the wit hangs his jest, the preacher his text, the cynic his grouch and the sinner his justification.



일기를 쓰는 것은 착한 여자들이다. 나쁜 여자들은 틈이 전혀 안 난다.

탈룰라 뱅크헤드

It’s the good girls who keep the diaries; the bad girls never have the time.



고대에 여성은 한 때 태양처럼 숭배되었다!

라이초 히라쓰카

In the Primordial Age Woman Was Once the Sun!



여성들은 오랫동안 여왕으로 불리어 왔다. 하지만 그들의 왕국은 아무런 가치가 없다.

…Women have been called queens for a long time, but the kingdom given them isn’t worth ruling.



가책은 우리가 어차피 하게 될 일에 대해 기꺼이 지불하는 값이다.

이사벨 홀랜드

Guilty is the price we pay willingly for doing what we are going to do anyway.



여자는 일단 인간이 되어도 좋다. 내게는 여성인 것이 먼저이다.

아나이스 닌

It’s all right for a woman to be, above all, human. I am a woman first of all.



남자없는 여성이란 자전거없는 물고기와 같다.

글로리아 스테이넴

A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.



내가 아는 슈퍼우먼이란 자신의 마룻바닥을 솔로 문질러 닦는 사람이다.

베트 미들러

My idea of superwoman is someone who scrubs her own floors.



여성의 불만은 그 정도에 따라 정확히 비례해서 증가한다.

엘리자베스 케이디 스텐튼

Woman’s discontent increases in exact proportion to her development.



자책감없는 여성을 내게 한명이라도 보여주면 나도 남자 하나 선 보일 수 있다.

에리카 정

Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I’ll show you a man.



나는 하늘을 지탱하고 있는 여자이다.

무지개는 나의 눈길들을 스쳐지나간다.

태양은 내 자궁까지 통로를 만들어 준다.

나의 생각은 구름의 모양 만큼이나 다양하다.

하지만 그 뜻은 아직 알 수 없다.

유트 인디언 시

I am the woman who holds up the sky.

The rainbow runs through my eyes.

The sun makes a path to my womb.

My thoughts are in the shape of clouds.

But my words are yet to come.



여성들은 마법을 지닌, 본래보다 배로 커지게 만드는 매력적인 권력의 렌즈를 주시하면서 수 백년에 걸쳐 시중 들어왔다.

버지니아 울프

Women have served all these centuries as looking glasses possessing the magic and delicious power of reflecting the figure of man at twice its natural size.



여성은 모든 것이 가능하다. 전통적인 여성이 되는 것도 괜찮다. 직장 일을 할 수도 가사를 할 수도 있다. 적극적이거나 수동적이 될 수도 있다. 남성과 함께 있을 때 어떤 식이든 그녀가 원하는 대로 될 수 있다. 하지만 오늘 날 처럼 다양한 선택지들이 있을 때마다 어떤 확고한 지침이 없다면 삶이 두려워 질 수 있다.

A woman can do anything. She can be traditionally feminine and that’s all right; she can work, she can stay at home; she can be aggressive, she can be passive; she can be anyway she wants with a man. But whenever there are the kinds of choices there are today, unless you have some solid base, life can be frightening.



우리는 꿈 꿀 시간이 필요하다. 반추하고, 영원에 이르고, 자체로 존재해야 할 시간들.

글라디스 테이버

We need time to dream, time to remember, and time to reach the infinite. Time to be.



그녀가 말할 때는 지혜롭다. 그리고 그 혀는 친절함이라는 법칙을 따른다.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.



무언가 되기 위해 여성은 더 남자다울 필요가 없다. 다만 더욱 여자가 되어야 한다.

샐리 E. 셰이위츠

To be somebody, a woman does not have to be more like a man, but has to be more of a woman.



안타깝게도 사람들은 가끔 당신이 비명을 질러대야 알아듣는다.

스테파인 파워

Unfortunately, sometimes people don’t hear you until you scream.



여성들은 일을 사적으로 처리한다고 자주 의심된다. 나는 그 이상 더 정직하게 다루는 법을 모른다.

마리아 맨스

Women are repeatedly accused of taking things personally. I cannot see any other honest way of taking them.



진정한 힘은 섬세함이다.

루이스 네밸슨

True strength is delicate.



철저하게 자신의 일에나 신경쓰라는 개념은 인색하기 그지없다. 누가 그리 이기적일 수 있나?

마이티 바커

The idea of strictly minding our own business is moldy rubbish. Who could be so selfish?



여성미는 남성이 지닌 궁극의 창의력이다.

Woman’s virtue is man’s greatest invention.



서서 먹는 것은 먹는 게 아니다.

베쓰 번스

What you eat standing up doesn’t count.



내가 알고 있는 것들이 전혀 두렵지 않다.

안나 수엘

I am never afraid of what I know.



여성은 주름과 지방이 늘 수 있다. 그녀의 허리와 가슴선이 무너지고 불임이 되며 심지어 유머감각을 잃기도 한다. 하지만 그 어느 것도 그녀의 성기능, 여성성의 상실을 의미하는 것은 아니다 . . . .

바바라 고든

A woman may develop wrinkles and cellulite, lose her waistline, her bustline, her ability to bear a child, even her sense of humor, but none of that implies a loss of her sexuality, her femininity . . . .



여성은 반드시 돈과 자신만의 공간이 있어야 한다.

버지니아 울프

A woman must have money and a room of her own.




The Diet after Having

Nowadays, I am trying to do on a diet using certain diet products. For the diet, a person should not have any meal but only the package of it in a mug cup for one time bite.

It is surely ridiculous human eat overly then try harder to lose it with lots of cost (I do not pay it though as I got it for free). Skipping the feed, it gives me awkward feeling and boredom. I have had something to do at least during the snacks. Then I have to do something else to furfill the time.

I have realized how long I have been consuming my daily routine with meal to forget the boredom with no reason. I often ask people to have lunch or dinner together when I am bored but not hungry. I go grocery shopping to buy food but rarely cook. I order delivery food or eat out whenever I need some fresh change. I constantly search for something to bite. I was obsessed with food to get out of the boredom.

Then I do not know what to do for the extra time without food by this diet. It feels like I have lost the enormous pleasure of my life. Of course, I enjoy things for hobby but still have lots of time to fill in. It does not mean I want to work out hard, try sweating on my body or torture my brain with heavy tasks.

I miss the time I was so captured with something else that I almost forgot to have nutrients only focusing on it. Skipping meal was typical as having food seemed to be waste of time when I was on the state. Currently I feel a bit nervous with the gap what to do instead of eating.

I have always sought for activity or productivity such as movies, art, work out, and so on. I had no idea food was one of them since I have seen that is a natural cycle on a daily basis.

Apple’s Story

II – The Truth & Dignity

It was just a simple activity on the playground that the kids were playing in teams. Apple didn’t take it serious until other kids got serious.

Apple was in A team and Apple’s best friend, S, was in B team. They played in the separated teams as a single player and Apple was also charged in checking the scores of A team.

Playing the game, Apple noticed S missed a ball and lost a single point. Actually it was a bit hard to say clearly if S lost it or not because the timing was quite tricky. It was more like missing the ball anyway although S caught it again. Apple might have more believed that S did not miss it because S was her best friend. So Apple said so.

The thing Apple missed was that the game was at the final round and S’ point was important for winning of the game. Apple’s team lost in the game by this and A team was furious about the result. After the game, the kids in the A team all asked Apple if she saw it clearly S did not miss the point.

Apple was embarrassed to answer their questions because she did not remember the scene clearly and she just simply wanted her close friend to get the score. Seeing the pals’ serious reactions, Apple realized her judgement was not that simple thing to be.

Apple had no idea about winning and losing like the other kids. In fact, she was not even interested in the game at all. Reminding the scene, Apple was thinking about something else at the moment. Then suddenly the children all gathered around Apple and were demanding her clear answer.

“Well…S got the point…I guess…?”

A team seemed to be all doomed as Apple answered in doubts.

“We have to score it again! S missed the ball! I saw it clearly and Apple is also not sure about that!”

“What are you talking about? She said S got the point!”

One kid shouted and then it was chaos after that. Children were separated in two groups again and started arguing who lost it and won. A team could not admit they lost the game and B team was same to take their victory back.

Apple felt awkward what to do for the things around her. It seemed to be too late to say the truth who won the game which would make both teams upset whatever the result was. As more time passed by, the more Apple felt confused what the truth was but the one thing was clear that Apple felt very uncomfortable about the both teams’ aggressive, competitive desires to win.

Kids from both teams came to Apple one by one and asked several but similar questions.

“You did not see that clearly, did you?”

“We can win if you say the truth now, Apple”

“Why don’t you say that clearly we won the game, we won the game, right?”

Now Apple felt a headache with the strong tensions. The ground was swirling and falling towards her. She was suddenly afraid what would happen to S if she took her saying back. B team would blame S that she made her team lose the game.

While the kids were still arguing about that, Apple met S on the playground after the break time. Then S asked the same thing to Apple.

“Did you really see it clearly, Apple? If it is for me, I am fine. You can say that I lost the point if it is as it is.”

Wish Apple could do it as S said. S seemed to know why Apple did it and be more worried about lying rather than losing the game. The thing was that Apple was not even sure what the truth was and she was not willing to say the truth in the midst of the arguments. At least Apple had to say it clearly S lost the point if she was not sure if S won the point but Apple was not sure about it either.

S seemed to be ok to accept the truth but now Apple was not ok at this moment. Apple did it first for S’ sake and now S did not want Apple’s favor so that Apple could say the truth. Though Apple realized it was time to keep her dignity whatever the truth was.

The dignity Apple might have ignored the truth so made her team lose the game over friend’s small benefit which was Apple’s thoughtful consideration that nobody wanted now.